There are a number of reasons why people decide against having counselling. Counselling is becoming more and more acceptable in modern society but only a few years ago there was a stigma attached to it. Now that the stigma is fading there are other reasons why people decide not to seek help in times of distress.
One of the main reasons is the cost! Some people understand the cost but do not understand the value. What is the value of not being distressed, in pain, unhappy. We pay money to service our cars every year because we need to look after them to keep them running well. Our health and well being is just as important, so why don't we do something about it?. Counselling can help you to manage stress, change negative thoughts and give you a positive outlook overall giving life long lasting benefits.
We also consider that asking for help is a sign of weakness, that we are a failure and that is what other people will think of us. We ignore the problem hoping it will go away and avoid asking for help because its embarrassing and humiliating. Just because we feel these things does not mean that they are true. Counselling can help you to refocus, change the irrational self defeating beliefs you are feeling into positive ones. You may have been able to cope before but if those coping mechanisms no longer work counselling can help you to find new ones.
There is also the question 'how can counselling possibly help me?' Counselling can help bring about positive change, increase your well being and give you the tools and techniques to use now and further on down the line. It is a difficult decision to put yourself into someone else's hands and trust them with the one or many things that is causing you the most distress at that time. This is why Counsellors are non-judgmental, warm, kind and professional and will provide you with a safe environment. It is very empowering for a person to be able to talk freely and openly about their thoughts and feelings and not be judged. It is a good idea to look around for the right Counsellor for you.